Re: HOW and WHY BASIC PROCESSES WORK
Reply #5 –
Hello Gquantao,
thank you for sharing :-)
This also gives me the opportunity to give an example to what I was trying to convey in my previous post.
But aren't positive/negative just evaluations? Answers my sister didn't like were "negative" even though they were often accurate.
In this context when you ask a processing question it is not an evaluation.
An example could be, you ask the client (this is a made-up question/command):
"Tell me a time when you were winning." (You are asking for a positive condition.)
But the client is only coming up with times when he was losing.
In my question to Roger I was asking what to do when a client who had negative times (in this example losing) pop to view but is not sharing with the processor and instead "tries hard" to come up with a time when/where he was winning.
I see great value in the preparatory steps of creating a safe space relationship where a client or even ourselves feel safe enough to apperceive their own actual answer.
Yes, you are absolutely right. However, sometimes you have new clients who are rather shy and don't want to do anything wrong etc. This is of course part of the Vital Fundamentals (talking to and opening up to people can be AN AREA OF FEAR).
In my experience it can take several sessions of online-processing before the client can really open up and begins to open up. I mean people really new to processing.
Best regards,
Christian